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Beautiful Women Over 40: Salma Hayek, 45 makes the cover of Lucky Magazine

10 Apr

I was sooo happy when I received my May issue of Lucky with Salma Hayek on the cover!    The shopping-and-fashion mag tends to have lots of under 35 starlets from both TV and movies on the cover, many of them I’m either unfamiliar with or just don’t care about.  But Hayek’s life, how she’s managed her career, and what she thinks of herself are important reads for any woman at any age.

Some of the key takeaways from Jean Godfrey-June’s feature on Hayek ,for me, were about how she views her body and her skin.  She admits to being short and curvy (read: not fat) and sometimes wanting to be smaller.  Yes, the world around us sometimes makes us want to hide our breasts and behinds as they are so often objectified.  Thus, we might fear that we, too, are objectified–and who knows that better than a celebrity, who may be picked apart at any  moment for a change in her face, or what she eats, or anything….

Hayek also admits to acne when younger, taking Accutane, and the resulting skin sensitivity.  She also mentions her grandmother’s beauty concoctions (my mom had some too!) , her own Nuance beauty line, and NOT having Botox.

Now, how many of our celebrities can admit to *that* one?  Not many, that’s for sure, and a whole ton of the over 40 set seem to be addicted to the stuff.  Rumor has it that some dermatologists are recommending it for women in their late 20′s and 30′s.  Here’s her thoughts on Botox and skin:

“Botox, trust me I’ve been tempted—but I resist! Think about what happens to your muscles—and your skin—if you’re sick and don’t move for a few days. It all atrophies! Plus, if you freeze a muscle in your face, other muscles have to compensate! And once you stop, what does that look like?” Before I can issue a rebuttal she offers another theory: “You know Latin people? African-American people? How our skin ages more slowly? Even though we’re dramatic, we move our faces, we eat higher-fat foods, we’re the ones with fewer wrinkles—it makes you wonder.”

IMO, what one eats definitely has an effect on one’s skin.  I know this from my own experience.  Yes, some of it is genetic, but also if you eat good fats–extra virgin olive oil, avocados, salmon–and this helps skin integrity. Eating these kinds of mono unsaturated fats is a good idea at any age.   Staying out of the sun and out of tanning beds helps too.  The late 70′s and early 80′s were big on tanning, and  I got a lot of ribbing about being “whitey” during that time when I was in my teens.  However, it’s paid off in the long run.  Even the dermatologist I saw last week for a sun-un-related skin condition remarked that my overall skin was quite nice. :)

Yet, Hayek, indirectly, brings up another point about our perceptions of beauty:  it has always been more acceptable for Latin and African-American women to be curvy.  Anglo, and those of us who resemble the Anglo side of our heritage more than the more “ethnic” sides tend to be overly concerned about our weight because the image of the perfect Anglo-Saxon Protestant American woman is one that also reflects the Nordic marauders–tall, slim and blond– who contributed to that gene pool.  So, if one is not identified as Latina or African-American, there’s this odd assumption that to be anything but tall and thin and small-breasted is somehow an indication of  weakness…

I could go on about these ridiculous assumptions, and their roots, but I digress. .

All in all, Hayek is, perhaps, one of the healthiest women in Hollywood today, and this profile gives us a peek into how we, too, could foster healthy attitudes about our bodies as we are getting older,  to no obsess over our minor imperfections, and how to, ultimately enjoy our lives.

 

 

 

Celebrate National Cleavage Day!

30 Mar

Happy National Cleavage Day wherever you are!

In case you didn’t know, or didn’t hear about it yet from your buddies on Facebook, today is National Cleavage Day!  According to the good folks at Wikipedia (who know about all these obscure little “days” here and there) NCD started in South Africa in 2002,  by bra manufacturer Wonderbra, in conjunction with Cosmopolitan magazine and 5FM, a Johannesburg Top 40 radio station…..

And, well, you know how these things, um, blossom…..

Wonderbra recently took a rather unscientific poll to determine who would make the manufacturer’s “Celebrity Cleavage Hall of Fame.”  George Mathis, a reporter for the Atlanta Journal Constitution, noted his post on National Cleavage Day that Christina Hendricks of Mad Men fame was not on the list– due to the fact that Mad Men has not reached enough residents of the U.K., where the poll was taken.

The Brits, however, have their own buxom babe–someone by the name of Holly Willoughby, who’s a model, TV presenter, and mother of two.  In this pic, Willoughby bears something of a resemblance to Brigitte Bardot, who also made the list.

Oddly enough, if you are a bra cup size larger than a DD in the United States, you will more than likely have to purchase a bra made by a British manufacturer.  We don’t seem to make large cup size bras in the U.S.A., even though many women, like myself, have been amply endowed by good old Mother Nature (and not a Beverly Hills plastic surgeon.)

Go figure!

More on National Cleavage Day from The Daily Mail U.K. and the Mirror

Bests and Worsts from the Oscars 2012 (and one horrific Grammy look)

1 Mar

Whew! It’s been awhile since I posted…and in that time we had two high-profile awards shows with some incredible–and incredibly awful–fashions.  I’ve got to say that the Oscars were the far more fabulous show, while the Grammys left me wondering “what the heck was that?”  Although I believe some of the soberness was owed to the death of Whitney Houston the night before the show, which may have caused some celebs to make last-minute wardrobe changes.  Therefore, I only have one outstandingly horrid Grammy choice–one that could have easily been averted with minor tweaks.

That being said, I will proceed with a few of my favorite Oscar looks (the rest you can find at Pinterest on my Oscars Best-Worst 2012  board.) Oh, one final thought:  I read a gazillion Best-Worst Dressed articles from both the U.S. and U.K. and there was no hands-down winner that *everyone* though was either the best or the worst.  Fashion is starting to take on the vibe of surrealist literature: either you get it, or you don’t, but who decides whether you’re getting it right or not getting it at all is a subjective judgement….

My first favorite has to be Viola Davis in this incredible, gorgeous green Vera Wang.  While some reviewers thought the pleats at the bottom were too much, IMO they’re perfect, bringing movement into what would have been a rather stiff ensemble (and giving it that “undersea” look that was popular at some of the 2010 fall social events in NYC.) More important to this look is Davis’ natural hair, which complements the look perfectly and sticks it to  the Anglo beauty standard.  In fact, the same reviewer who didn’t like the dress also didn’t like Davis’ hair, saying it was “inappropriate.”  Excuse me!?!  Women should not need to make themselves over to the White Anglo-Saxon Protestant Beauty Standard in order to be beautiful.  We are who we are, and beauty is beauty, even if it ain’t whitey-style.

Next came Octavia Spencer in Tadashi Soji.   It seems that many designers have no idea what to do with a woman who has curves.  Soji has no problem with a woman who has curves *and* isn’t in her late 20′s.  The dress highlights her waist and draws the eye both up to her face and down to the beautiful draping. The simple sleeve makes it elegant, not matronly (unlike Melissa McCarthey’s disaster, which looked better suited to a  middle-aged mother of the bride.)

The last of my faves that I’ll blog about (you can see the others on Pinterest) is this Alexander McQueen gorgeousness on Jessica Chastain.  I’m a sucker for embroidery, and I love the way the bodice embroidery resembles a golden butterfly hovering over a fields that traipse along the bottom of the gown.  Chastain’s soft hair and make-up are the perfect complement to a dress that is an absolute work of art….

And now for my top three worsts–and there were some bad ones….

It pains me to say this because I *love* Melissa McCarthey, and I know a good friend of hers designed this dress for her, but, my god, as someone else said, the designer should be taken out and beat with this dress.  Neither the color–mother of the bride mauve–nor the cut does a darned thing for Melissa.  She needed something that gave her lift, possibly with a short or cap sleeve, and not that fluttery butterfly stuff that’s there.  yuck!  The gathers/ruching/pleats or whatever they are on the bustline are just awful.  If this is the worst thing that happened to Melissa McCarthey this year, then she should pack this dress off to a charity and move on…

What can one say about Kristen Wiig, other than that she might want to consider firing her stylist.  Every time I’ve seen the woman at an awards show, she’s wearing gowns with colors that range from Old Nun’s Pantyhose Nude to Support Hose Beige.  WTF?  Wiig’s an attractive woman, so what’s with the beige?  A nice teal, perhaps.  But please! no more with the beige.

It’s tough picking the last of the worst, because there were a lot of worsts.  Could have been Leah Thompson’s silvery mother of the groom ensemble, to Angelina Jolie’s “legware” (oh, god, I could go on and on about that mess) but I just have to take a stab (literally) at Glenn Close in Zac Pozen.  Ok, we got too much going on here.  We got some fancy stuff going on with the corset-style bodice (anyone other than me getting tired of seeing that style, esp on women who might not ever need to wear a corset?)  to what looks like a painfully tight mermaid skirt.  Not just tight but a tad too long.  Oh, and where do I start with that jacket?  Really? A tuxedo style jacket?  Really??  I’d rather have seen that jacket with a pair of really cool trousers, a drapey low-cut cream or oyster colored shell underneath, and some cool shoes.  It’s just way too much for a fussy mermaid style dress.  yeesh!

Ok, so that clears up the Oscars.  And, as I said, I only have one ensemble from the Grammys to take a swipe at, and I’m only doing that because I really expected more from…..

FERGIE!  Just because it’s Jean Paul Gauthier doesn’t mean it can’t be a hot mess.  and this dress is a serious hot mess.   It’s not just that the word “orange” doesn’t rhyme with anything, but also that orange is a horrific color to match with anything.  Any color other than black would have made it look like a beach cover-up (and quite frankly, shortened up, it would make a super beach cover-up) but then again black under orange makes us think Trick or Treat.  And the only person who got tricked here is Fergie.  I love the woman–she’s a strong performer who truly loves what she’s doing, and it shows in her work.  But wow!  this is just one of the all time awfuls.  How could have it been improved?  A nude or medium pink slip, perhaps?  I’ m not sure even that could have helped it.

 

 

 

 

 

New Year’s Resolution: Losing Weight vs. Dieting

27 Dec

“Diet” is a four-letter word (correction: foul-letter word….)

honestly, I rarely consider the numbers on the scale as much as I consider the numbers on my dress size

I don’t believe in “dieting” per se.  I do, however, believe in losing weight when it’s appropriate.  When the number of outfits in my wardrobe that fit comfortably is disproportionate to the total number of outfits therein, it is most certainly time to lose some weight.  (or start building a new wardrobe, which most of us, esp. this time of year, can ill afford….)

Luckily when I was younger, I put down a good foundation of muscle.  Muscle has memory, fat doesn’t.  So, once the muscle is activated through exercise (or more movement in general) it will “remember’ its correct, un-crumpled position in my body, straighten up, and begin to burn the poundage that currently presses on it.

Unlike a lot of women, though, I don’t regret the weight I’ve gained, nor is it having a negative impact on my health.  I come from some rather hearty genetic stock, so I seem to be able to carry a whole lot of weight and not have it impact my sleep, breathing, cholesterol, blood sugar, or any other system that would lead my doctor to tell me that I need to lose weight.  Conceivably, I could stay my current chunky monkey self and not feel one whit of guilt….

Speaking of not feeling one whit of guilt, unlike so many of those sad sacks on the Oprah Winfrey’s show and network, I didn’t gain my weight from overeating because of some sort of devastating emotional issue.  Yes, I had some emotional issues: last December I lost my Father and the project I was working on folded.  There was one other thing too, but I don’t recall right now (these things usually happen in threes for me.)   And yes, I ate more than my fair share of red velvet cupcakes with cream cheese frosting.  While this more than likely was a contributing factor to my weight gain, I don’t feel bad about it, don’t feel that I need to punish myself  nor do I feel a need to “confess” the sins of my over-eating.

Sh*t happens.  Sometimes we take comfort in food.  I doesn’t mean it’s a “compulsion” and doesn’t mean it will lead to all sorts of devastation…

But I digress…..

Back to the whole “diet” thing….

Now, I don’t plan to diet.  Not at all.  Won’t be going to Weight Watchers (although I understand their programs work very well) and won’t be consulting with any of the books that are out there.  I know my body fairly well–as we all should at some point in our lives–and know what works comfortably for me.  Here are seven food-related steps I plan to take to lose weight, not diet, which you may find helpful as well.

      1. Lower carbs, boost protein.  Over the past two weeks I noticed myself nodding after my morning oatmeal.  I switched to bacon and eggs and had a great energy and mood boost.  Therefore, oatmeal is out, and protein like eggs, bacon, ham, and others are in for breakfast.
      2. Eat more fish.  Beef is another comfort food:  stews, chuck steaks, chili.  Esp. really good burgers like I can get at my favorite restaurant.  However, it tends to pack on the pounds.  Fish is far better, and I actually like it.  Just have to make sure I don’t drown it in some kind of sauce or sugary stuff.
      3. Step away from the candy, embrace fruit.  Mandarin oranges, apples with a bit of peanut butter are great.  Stay away from the pineapple though.  It’s high sugar and, for me, is an appetite stimulant.
      4. Back away from the booze.  Lower the intake to once a week of wine.
      5. Do the French thing: if wine, no bread; if bread no wine.  It cuts sugary carbs, and works.
      6. Whole wheat pasta and brown rice.  Extra fiber can’t hurt.
      7. Don’t get stupid about it  If I’m out with friends, I don’t have to announce that I’m on a diet, and I don’t have to eat “diet” food. I can enjoy that time without feeling guilty.

More than likely it helps that my goals are reasonable.  I am not trying to be a size “Jessica Parker.”   I’m merely attempting to get back into my current wardrobe, which includes some very nice size 12 skirts.  I want “well-managed curves” (as one guy once told me I had) and not my little jelly belly.   Grieving is over, it’s time to move on.

Want some more good tips? Check out 7 Healthy Steps to Get rid of Holiday Fat! from AllWomenStalk.com

Flash Sale Overload!

17 Jun

Another Flash Sale site? Oh, no Tish, I just can't handle looking at another pair of Louboutins!

This morning, as I was updating my Facebook status, an ad appeared for another one of those Flash Sale sites..

For those of you who don’t know what that is, a flash sale site is a website that offers special deals on designer clothing, home furnishings, travel packages, etc. for limited time periods.  Many of the flash sale sites are for members only, while all you need is an email addy and password for others.  Sales can last from several days to several hours.  With some sites you can earn points towards purchases for signing up friends.  Examples of flash sale sites that I belong to are ideeli, Gilt Group, and Haute Look.

Not that I’ve ever made a purchase on any of them.   I find that for me, a dedicated frugalista, these sites function as look books, where I make mental notes on designers, cuts, colors and fabrics–which then makes it easier to find that unique, on-trend look when I hit some of my favorite shops.

I guess, too, the other thing I don’t like about flash sale sites is that it’s difficult for me to buy something as, say, a $270 Hugo Boss dress, because I would like to try it on first.  As an Average Woman, my size ranges anywhere from a 12 on a good day, to a 16 on a badly cut designer day (if I can find a 16, that is.)  Not knowing the cut of a particular designer’s clothing or shoes, nor how the dress will look,  causes me to hesitate before making a costly, disappointing, online ordering mistake.

All I can think of is the *great* Michael Kors dress I found in Macy’s, on sale, that looked fantastic on the mannequin, and utterly dreadful on me.  Not to mention that Kors’ extra-large was (happily, though) too large for me.   Could you have imagined how I would have felt if I’d ordered it online?  I would have had to stare at my disappointment for several days (or in my case, several months) before I returned it.  And then the hassle of waiting for the credit to appear back on my account…ugh!

I guess if you know the way a particular designer’s clothes fit,  or if you’re ridiculously model thin, the whole return thing isn’t a big concern….

The bigger question though, is do we need another flash sale site?  Maybe the folks who set it up think so, but the flash sale strategy is usually aimed at young female consumers with an unquenchable thirst for FASHION.

I’m not sure how long, nor how many sites, a strategy like that can support.

As usual, it will be interesting to see what happens to all these flash sale sites in a few years.  For now, I’m suffering from flash sale site overload.

Curvy cover girls grace June Vogue Italia

6 Jun

I was super shocked to see these gorgeous pics of real, curvy women from the June 2011 Vogue Italia shot by photographer Steven Meisel. . .

Lately (in the U.S. anyway) “curvy” has become synonymous with extremely overweight. While that may make women who are extremely overweight feel good about their figures, it ends up giving many of us who are actually curvy a bit  of a complex about being curvy.  I can certainly empathize with extremely overweight women –to a degree–but I also feel really, really peeved that we have this either/or thing in our world: either you are skinny and fashionable, or curvy and grossly overweight. This either/or malarkey does nothing for those of us who are somewhere in between no breasted boyish bodies and over-fed overweight bodies.  Here’s one of the shots so you can see what I mean:

most men think this woman's sexy. so, why doesn't the fashion industry?

And check out this slide show on the Vogue Italia site to see some of the controversy that’s been stirred up.

(hat tip to Fashion Gone Rogue )